Surrender

Surrender

Universe / Divine often seems to push me to my knees to show that I am not in charge.

I want to share an incident that happened yesterday. It was a lazy Sat, my husband took our son for swim lessons while I finished preparing lunch. We ate lunch and put the kiddo down for a nap. I hadn’t been to the gym since my last post about exercise and felt the need to get back into a routine once more. So, after quickly tiding up the place (it always seems like a storm went through my house) I decided to go to the gym. It had already started to snow by then and I wanted to get back as quickly as possibly.

So, off I went to the gym for an hour. As luck would have it, I found one parking spot – the parking lot was heavily crowded for some reason, probably people trying to stock up before the heavy snow. I had a good workout and as I was walking towards my car, a man stopped me saying loudly “Did you do this?” I had no clue what he was talking about and said so to him. He then points to his back bumper and shows a scratch on it. Then, he points to a scratch on my front bumper and shows me a scratch on my car. He then proceeds to accuse me that I hit his car.

And even before I could say anything, a cop car shows up and blocks my car. Everything felt surreal. I know, it is not a big deal, accidents happen right. But something got triggered inside and I felt the injustice of being accused of something that I did not do. Any grounded person would have politely explained that and let things happen.

What did I do? I fell apart. I started crying and yelling that I did not hit that car. Crying hysterically – now in retrospect it was stupid to have had that crazy reaction. In my mind, I had 1 hour to myself and I wanted to just get back home to my kid and did not want to spend hours dealing with the insurance company for something that I did not do. It felt like pure injustice and a waste of time. Of course, my acting like a crazy person did not help but I could not stop crying. This hit a nerve.

Even with the cop explaining to that dude that it does not look like I did it – the man insisted to exchanging information with the insurance company. And then began the waiting period. The cop took all my information and I waited in the car. My phone then dies, it was like I was in twilight zone as all I wanted to do was call my husband or my friend and get some comfort.

Finally, after 25 long minutes, I was allowed to go. And my phone turned on mysteriously as well. It was almost like I was just meant to sit in the discomfort of being accused and my melt down – just ‘being’ and ‘accepting’ of the situation.

When I finally got to speak to my friend ‘Naomi’, who I often go to when I need a different perspective, she reminded me of this book that we both had read called “The Surrender Experiment“, where the author’s main way of being in life is to ‘let things happen’ and not ‘fight anything that life doles out to you’.

Obviously, this incident was no big deal but in the moment, it felt like the rug had been pulled out from under – being accused of something that I did not do seems like a big trigger, I guess. It was a great reminder of letting the universe be a guide. Surrender often gets a bad rap because people confuse it with submission.

So, what does Surrender really mean? Here is what Wiki says about it “To surrender in spirituality and religion means that a believer completely gives up his own will and subjects his thoughts, ideas, and deeds to the will and teachings of a higher power”.

For me, Surrender is my way being guided and being at peace with what is happening. It does not mean that I don’t do what I have to do, it means that I do my job and let the universe / divine do the rest – what ever that looks like – whether I like it or not / whether that was in my plans or not/ whether that is what I wanted or not. It means true acceptance without resistance. It means sitting with the discomfort, it means asking for guidance from a place of prayer / humbleness.

SurrenderEOBlogEvery morning before I start my day, I apply a drop of Surrender Essential Oil to my heart center and my forehead. I actively set an intention of giving me the strength and courage to ‘surrender’. And I had forgotten to do that on Sat morning. Just because I did not apply the EO does not mean that I should have forgotten that principle. To me, actively intending for ‘surrender’ sets the pace of the day and serves as a reminder.

What I love about Young Living is that they have an oil for everything. I truly love Surrender Essential Oil and feel grateful to have tools like this. Surrender is a blend and here is what YL describes the oil – “Surrender™ is a calming, soothing blend formulated for individuals who feel a need to be controlling. It helps quiet troubled hearts so that negative emotions can be released. Surrender may also help return feelings of equilibrium and inner strength”

Do you see those words “who need to be controlling” – that is me or should I say “recovering me”. I often joke about myself as a “recovering controller”. I have to work hard at it – letting go of control.

I will invite any of you struggling to let go of control to just experiment with Surrender and see how freeing it is – that is after you work through the fear : )

Healthy Weight Management

Weight is not something I have ever struggled with……Well, until….I got pregnant. I was always so prideful of my genes. My paternal grandmother was less than 5 ft tall, bore 8 children and probably never weighed more than 90 lbs.  Well, that is what I was blessed with, well, until I got pregnant.

Pregnancy was actually fine. I gained only the right amount 35 lbs and interestingly enough, I gained 15 more pounds after giving birth  in-spite of nursing. All the stories about nursing makes you shed the weight did NOT apply to me. It was so disheartening. I had so much compassion for people who try hard but are unable to shed the weight. I was so depressed. I am not big into being skinny, but my energy was down and it was so hard carrying around all that extra weight.

I found essential oils that helped with healthy weight management (which I will write about below) but I was reluctant to use them as they have peppermint EO and sometimes peppermint EO can reduce milk supply. I was not ready to loose the milk supply that I had worked hard towards maintaining. So, you must be thinking – there must be something about Essential Oils that she will be writing about. Yes, there is, but not all what helped me finally loose all the pregnancy + weight.

What worked for me was a high protein diet low carb diet, exercise regularly even if just for 20 min, reducing stress ( this was BIG as I was so stressed about my son’s eating issues – another post for later) , NingXia Red (I started drinking NingXia Red everyday especially before a workout) and Lemon EO ( I started having lemon eo in my water everyday in the morning) This really helped and 2 years since his birth, I am finally back to my pre pregnancy weight.

In any case, here is a protocol that might help many of you….

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Grapefruit EO ( Helps boost metabolism)
Lemon EO ( Breaks down fat cells)
Peppermint (Helps with hunger)
Add 3-4 drops of each in a capsule and have one everyday preferably in the morning.

My invitation to anyone struggling with weight – Don’t give up, be persistent ( heard of compound effect – it works) and don’t loose hope.

 

Courage

martin-luther-king-jr-quotesThat to me is Courage. I often struggle with ‘Courage’ these days. My whole career for the last 16 years has been focussed on working with people one on one. Starting Harmony and Vitality required ‘Courage’ for me as it meant being out in public with my views and opinions.

Almost everyday since I first started this company, I have gone to my husband asking him for words of encouragement as doing this work has forced me to face my fears and challenges like never before. His words and support have encouraged me to go on.

He often reminds me of my ‘Why‘. This is the first time I am writing this in public, so thanks for being a part of this. My ‘Why‘ is to bring health and wellness to every household, to every person that I meet, to touch the lives of all that I encounter everyday. It is to empower people to not only take charge but also to educate about the ease of swapping household goods for practical & sustainable wellness. My ‘Why‘ is to bring them opportunities to attain financial freedom.

And this requires me to be ‘out there’ in the world bringing the message across. I am not a public speaker – I have never been. I call on the guidance of the universe to show me my next step, to show me how to reach people. Often, I have no clue or idea where to go next but always, the next step shows up. Sometimes, not in the timeline I have in mind, and therefore requires me to trust and have faith.

I always have an oil that supports me through my journey . Believe EO is one of them. When I apply oils, I often set intentions. I apply Believe on my forehead and my brain stem. believe-oil

I will intentionally release any emotions that are not serving me and invite in Belief, Trust and Faith in my journey. And it works. Believe EO is a blend. You can read more about it here.

 

Holiday Gifts

This holiday season, we decided to make home made gifts. We had so much fun doing that. Of late, I have been involving my toddler to help out with the household stuff. Why: I come from an Indian background where grown men don’t even know how to make chai or cook an egg. My husband and I decided early on that our son needs to be self sufficient and that we need to start young so that it becomes the norm. Ok, enough of the digression and back to the holiday gifts…

AnishHolidayGiftsI wanted to grab and hug him as he was working with so much concentration. I didn’t as I wanted him to have his space, but he is so cute, of course, I am biased. The funny thing was that he got a little on his hand and he licked it before I could stop him. And I was ok with it as I knew every single ingredient that went into it and Young Living essential oils are so pure that I knew that it would not do any harm.

Making gifts for people in our lives like his teachers or baby sitter was so special. I also knew that they would enjoy these practical economical gifts as well. I would highly encourage you to try making hand made items. Believe me, they are not as hard as they seem.

 

 

Faith

So, as you probably noticed, I have been on hiatus for a while now. Life has been very busy – moving, toddler, holidays, starting a new business venture, classes, life – you get the picture. And this time has challenged me beyond what I can put down in words, nothing serious like what people are experiencing in the world at this time.  It has more to do with being called to trust and have faith in the path that has been chosen for me. I have struggled with being a parent, a wife, a daughter, a therapist to my clients when life has been so chaotic.

What has kept me going is ‘Faith’. I don’t mean that in a religious context, but more in terms of keeping me grounded. My friend Rebecca gave me this mug and it summarizes my feelings on Faith

Oh! have I not fallen and made mistakes. This is where practicing self forgiveness comes into the picture as well.

And of course, Young Living has oils for that. They make the best blends ever – Faith and Forgiveness.
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Essential Oils are like energy medicine. Plants have frequencies in them and Gary Young has mastered the art of combining the plants to make the desired frequency. That, to me is amazing as it is so accessible to lay people.

 

 

 

Often, ForgivenessI set an intention as I am applying the essential oil. I also apply oils that target emotions to the brain stem as I set the intention. It targets the amygdala which is the emotion center. It is quite up lifting. What I love about blends like these is that there is no room to stay stuck in an emotional state. There is no room to dwell and once you release the emotion, you get to move on. How cool is that???

I hope you try these amazing oils. Again, please let me know how I can be of service to you.